When I tell people that I don't have any children, they typically say things like, "Well, you're still young..." (No, I'm not.) "Oh, that's too bad!" (No, it's not.) "Hopefully things won't remain like that!" (I certainly
hope they do!)And when I tell people that I don't
want to have any children, they think it's their business to "correct" me. "You don't really mean that!" (Want a bet?) "Every woman wants a baby!" (But I'm not a woman - ask all those women and girls in my life who told me, "You're just a calculating machine!" and "Why don't you
pretend to be a girl for a change?") "You must have had a terrible childhood!" (It wasn't so bad - but I couldn't wait to grow up and be an adult!)
Now I've stumbled upon a
blog by a childfree woman who asks the question: Were you an "early articulator," or did you realize only later in life that you would have no children and would be happier that way?
I'm really not sure what I am. I do remember writing things like, "I don't want more than three children," in school essays. I do
not remember writing, or saying,
anything like, "I want at least one [or two, or three, etc.] children." I
do remember writing and talking about my educational goals, my career dreams, etc., and dreaming of meeting a man (like Humbert Humbert - the closest thing to a real family man if there was one in that
novel!) for the sake of romance and adventure - but not dreaming of having children with him!
Shimmies to
Like It Is. We are not alone! And I'm going to enjoy reading
this post next... (Don't get me started on how Disney mangled
The Little Mermaid. The cartoon that
I saw as a child had the original ending.)
Labels: childfree life, civil rights, MYOB